The universe is made of stories, not of atoms.
~ Muriel Rukeyser
You are a universe of stories:
- the stories you’ve been told;
- the stories you’ve not been told;
- the stories you tell yourself; and
- the stories that are yours to imagine, choose, create, sustain, and gloriously, unapologetically live!
Recognizing and claiming this changes everything.
You are your stories…
~ the stories you’ve been told:
You’ve grown up on stories: fairytales, bedtime stories, religious stories, history, myth, legend, lore. Not to mention the stories of your family – some reinforced, others rejected, but no less pervasive. And then there are the those of your world, your culture, your socio-political reality, and more.
Every. single. one. of these has shaped the way you understand the world and your place in it – even your day-to-day life, your work, your relationships, everything. They make you, you.
“Whether we know it or not, whether we have read them or not, whether we believe them or don’t,
our daily lives take direction from stories that are hundreds, even thousands of years old.”
~ Elizabeth Lesser
~ the stories you’ve not been told:
The stories that don’t get told can speak even more loudly than those that do. Those of harm, loss, pain, grief, disappointment, and anger – when not told, remain; their wounds are still felt and we are held captive to them.
Similarly, when you’ve not been told nearly enough stories of women’s strength, tenacity, wisdom, courage, and hope, it is hard to live a story defined by the same.
“All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell a story about them.
But if we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story tells us – we dream these stories, we develop symptoms, or we find ourselves acting in ways we don’t understand.”
~ Stephen Grosz
~ the stories you tell yourself:
Stories told and stories denied turn into the incessant and endless voices that chatter within. Cinderella’s story becomes the voice that says you’re not enough. Eve’s story becomes the voice that says you’re too much. The unacknowledged or unhealed story of your past (and those of generations before) becomes the voice that says you should just keep quiet, keep the peace, keep complying and compromising.
And as long as there are untold, silenced, and shamed stories of women in our collective, matrilineal line, we hear the voice that says there’s no precedent for change, for transformation, for hope.
Just so you know: all of these voices are wrong!
“. . . everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time.
That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.”
~ Patrick Rothfuss
~ the stories that are yours to imagine, choose, create, sustain, and gloriously, unapologetically live!
“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”
~ Brené Brown
I know the “hustle for worthiness” all too well; what it feels like to live in stories that aren’t truly my own – ones I’ve inherited or fallen into or tried to make work or have felt responsible to perpetuate…
I also know that we live in a world that is content (and determined) to keep us, all women, from living stories of agency, power, courage, wisdom, and yes, worthiness.
This is why we must become the tellers of our own stories, our own protagonists, our own heroines, the ones holding the pen, the ones who change everything.
I believe in this like it’s gospel. In the marrow of my bones. In every fiber of my being.
I believe in you – and the worthy, glorious, unapologetic, radiant, brave, wild, amazing story you desire and deserve to live.
It is what I invite, encourage, offer, support, and compel.
It is yours for the asking, yours to call in, yours to live. And you’re not alone in any of it.
Telling you the truth.
Standing alongside you.
Fiercely advocating on your behalf.
All this and then some is what I do.
It is my privilege and honor to hear your stories and offer what I’ve learned through my own.
Let’s talk, yes? Book a complimentary conversation with me. Not a discovery call. No pressure or obligation. Just time to tell a few stories and wonder about those that are yet to be imagined and lived. How can I help and support you?
And did I mention? You are not alone.
I write you a letter every week just to remind you.
My thoughts. My questions. My journey. Some wisdom along the way that help you step more fully into the story and life that’s yours. And every ounce of encouragement and hope that I can possibly express.