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Below are years (and years and years) of blog posts. I started WAY back in 2005!
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6 Words that Change Everything
You get to be 100% yourself, 100% of the time! It's true: this is 10 words (plus the two %-signs). I'm...
Everything You Need
In the midst of life's ups and down, I am grateful for that which is steady, familiar, and comfortable. I...
It’s a relief to tell the truth.
"It’s a relief to speak the truth. I don’t have to pretend." ~ Karen Maezen Miller My thoughts about...
Is this exactly the life I want?
Is this exactly the life I want? My answer is sometimes a definitive and enthusiastic "yes," and other...
About Being Ordinary
The desire, temptation, and lure to live an extraordinary life is strong; to figure out our “one thing;” to...
Unanswerable Questions
It seems that we are endlessly confronted with realities that confound, enrage, and incense. We sift through...
The Devastation of Hope
Last week I watched someone I love ascend into the heights of joy only to descend into its complete...
Treasuring All that is Precious
As I write this (early January, 2023), I am in Toronto at the home of my dear friend, Tanya Geisler. I was...
Living from a Softer Place
For as grateful (and amazed) as I am that I've completed my book, it is an incredibly odd thing to place it...
Mystery and Magic
We can never know with any degree of certainty all the ways in which our choices, our life, has rippled far,...
Seemingly Random Things
My oldest daughter lives about 9.5 hours away; a reasonable road-trip. So, in preparation for my most recent...
My Struggle with Envy
A few weeks back, in the midst of my morning writing/journaling, I reflected on a snippet of my behavior....
About South Stars
I was talking with a client a few weeks back who can honestly and confidently state that she is strong and...
About Rest
In her book, Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto, Tricia Hersey says this: “Rest is radical because it disrupts...
In Praise (and Pursuit) of Normal
I turned my book's manuscript in to my publisher just over three weeks ago. It’s a bit of a shock, given...
Letting go of what no longer serves
A few weeks back I posted a quote from Adam Grant’s book, Think Again on IG and FB: “. . . let go of the...
Three Illusions Worth Shattering
I received an email from one of my current book coaching clients a few weeks back that included an...
Use Your Imagination
There is something incredibly powerful about good fiction, yes? The craft of it. The story itself. And the...
Rebellion as a Spiritual Practice
Most if not all of us battle with the tension between our own desires, our deep sense of what’s most true,...
About Being In Control
A few weeks back I was in a place I haven’t been for two-plus years: wearing a lavalier mic, standing in...
I am NOT the Crazy One!
No big surprise: I love books! A ton of them are on my Kindle and most of the time I’m good with reading the...
About My Book
It feels WAY too far away to actually talk about, let alone celebrate, but still, I’m naming it: On 10.3.23...
The truth is almost always personal
I recently read Handling the Truth: On the Writing of Memoir, by Beth Kephart. On the back cover are these...
Saying “no” (out loud) to shame
I’ve been thinking about shame a lot lately. I know it’s showing up because in the seemingly-endless...
Learning to Trust Your Heart
Growing up, I learned that the only voices I was to trust were those outside of me. Parents. My elders....
If I had a Book Group
I ordered a book a few weeks back, but have basically avoided it since it arrived. Well, until a couple...
Happy 26th Birthday, Emma Joy!
How is it possible that you are 26 today? (The question I'm really asking is how it is possible that I have...
“I’m so proud of you!”
I have had conversations with clients in past weeks where a sense of self-pride showed up . . . and then was...
For Days of Self-Loathing
I came across a poem a few weeks back by Nikita Gill. The corner of the page was folded down — evidence that...
damned if you do and damned if you don’t
I have had numerous conversations with clients in past weeks about the "damned if you do and damned if you...
Happy 24th Birthday, Abby!
Happy Birthday, sweet girl. Every year I wonder how it is possible that twelve months / fifty two weeks /...
Letting go of happy endings . . .
I've been ensconced in fiction lately. There is a LOT to be said for getting lost in the pages of a book,...
1000 Words on Aging
Being 61 is not what I expected…though I don’t know that I could tell you, with any degree of specificity,...
About “someday”
You know of Lizzo, yes? Her music, her recent show on Amazon — Watch Out For the Big Grrrls, her incredible...
Stepping Into Fear
Every so often, when you’ve come into fear, you’ve walked away. What if today you held that tremble, and...
About the quiet and silence.
So often, I talk about a woman’s voice and courage and sovereignty. Yours. Mine. Ours. It matters. It is...
About the Ocean and Anguish
I’ve spent a lot of time at the beach lately. As soon as we arrive, my 9-year-old niece Grace, runs to the...
Women Know Everything
My sister bought me a book a few weeks back: Women Know Everything! 3241 Quips, Quotes and Brilliant Remarks...
4 Things I Want You to Know
As you undoubtedly know, I spend countless hours (decades, really) in the midst of ancient, sacred stories...
Daily Life and the Spiritual Journey
I read and highlighted these two sentences recently: The spiritual journey is what the soul is up to while...
About Time
I’ve been thinking a lot about time lately; struggling with it in some ways. And oddly, it’s not because I...
About Bridgerton & Romance Novels
A couple years back I devoured every novel in Julia Quinn’s Bridgerton series within a matter of weeks — far...
About Being an Outlaw
Yes, about being an outlaw...but also archetypes and exhaustion and self-care and then some. The dictionary...
Not practicing what I preach
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my desire. No. That’s not quite true. I’ve been thinking a lot lately...
All the wisdom you’ll ever need…
I recently (re)watched The Matrix. It’s one of my favorites, to be sure. Even so, I’d forgotten about the...
What Matters in a Broken World?
I’ve been sitting with a particular question lately that haunts me, in many ways: How are we to make sense...
About peanut butter, shame, and old stories
I was journaling the other morning and flashed on a memory from close to 50 years ago… I snuck into the...
1 quote and 3 (tiny) topics
The Quote: Re-vision–the act of looking back, of seeing with fresh eyes, of entering an old text from a new,...
About Ukraine (and a woman’s anger)
My predominant emotion related to the war on Ukraine is anger. Which then begs a few questions: What am I to...
About hearing voices…
Yes, let’s talk about hearing voices…And (just a bit) about RAISING our voices and being countercultural! ...
About angels in black tights…and signs…
This post is about signs. Looking for them. Spotting them. Trusting them. ‘Seems right to start things off...
About NOT living a conventional life
“Most of us live conventional lives. We want to avoid the discomforts that arise from complications. But the...
Telling Your Truth (and being a volcano)
I find it fascinating (and frustrating) that as children we are taught lying is definitely not OK....
About welcoming exhaustion…
It may sound strange, but for me, exhaustion is welcome. Years ago I had a job with a 90-minute commute each...
About unexpected change and then some
I didn’t expect to move from Washington to North Carolina 2 months ago. The prospect didn’t even enter my...
3 Ways to Step into Gratitude
There’s a very old Hebrew Psalm that’s been circling in my mind lately. It’s an ancient prayer that is...
About Being Alone
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about being alone: the difference between actually being alone and feeling...
5 Ways to Have the Life you Desire
Here’s the quick version of this post: Hold fast to what you most desire. Name what you want. Acknowledge...
The Voices in Your Head
As women, there are times in which we are nearly overwhelmed by the voices in our head, the subtle and...
What if your spirituality was easy?
I would not use the word “easy” or “ease” to describe my experience of being a spiritual person (at least in...
Devotion instead of To-Do’s
If you grew up in a world anything like mine. Devotion(s) were something you did - religiously - if you were...
Why I’ve Given Up on Prayer
I grew up in a very strong faith tradition, so have always had a clear understanding of prayer: its purpose,...
Wisdom from Dr. Sharon
I came across a Facebook post by Brene Brown a few weeks back. She was talking about her recent conversation...
3 Ways to be Determined & Wise
There’s an ancient, sacred story told of a woman who had the capacity to influence a man of power, who was...
Why I Left My Corporate Job
My thoughts on fear, courage, and being an entrepreneur. In January of 2018 I left my 10-year-old online...
About my recent book-proposal rejection
A month or so ago I got a rejection letter from the publishing company to whom I sent my book proposal. To...
3 ways to be fear-defying in writing and life
When I look back over 17 years of blogging, here’s what stands out to me: My voice has fluctuated, depending...
On hope (via Emily Dickinson)
I have always loved these stanzas by Emily Dickinson: Hope is the thing with feathersThat perches in the...
Happy 25th Birthday, Emma Joy!
How is it possible that you are 25? How is it possible that my memories-like-they-were-yesterday of your...
How Courage is like Ballroom Dancing
My favorite movie of all time is Strictly Ballroom. It’s an Australian film from 1992. Quirky. Hilarious....
About Courage & American Ninja Warrior
I do not know how to explain why I love American Ninja Warrior. My youngest daughter and I started watching...
Does it feel costly to be yourself?
Let's be honest: it does feel costly to be ourselves. Maybe not all of the time, but certainly in some...
Acknowledging the Choices that are Ours
I received a frantic call from one of my daughters a month or so ago. She was in a desperate state, I was...
Happy 23rd Birthday, Abby!
I’m sure I say something similar every year, but how is it possible that you are 23 today? How is it...
See yourself as a miracle
When I was 8 or 9, my newborn sister went into the hospital. I don’t remember the details. I don’t remember...
How to Trust Your Inner Wisdom
I could offer you a whole bunch of reasons why you can and should trust your wisdom, why it’s reliable, why...
4 Way to Hear Your Own Wisdom
It’s taken me years (and years and years) to acknowledge that I had wisdom that was uniquely, distinctly...
A 3-Step Plan Worth Following
I lived a very long season of my life (decades, really) in which I was endlessly on the hunt to find a plan...
Remember Who You Are
I talk about sovereignty all the time. It’s a program I offer. But more than all else, it’s a reality, a...
The Voices in Your Head
Maybe it's only me, but no matter how long it's been since some of my less-than-stellar stories took place,...
The Power of Childhood Stories
We rarely give a second thought to the stories of our childhood. Fairytales, religious myths, favorite...
Your Wild Voice Within
...the shadow of Wild Woman still lurks behind us during our days and in our nights. No matter where we are,...
No imagination required…
There’s a story I love to tell of a mostly unknown woman named Jael. She singlehandedly won a huge battle...
The struggle that IS worthwhile
I love Leo Tolstoy’s opening line in Anna Karenina: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is...
Smart. Responsible. Steadfast. (Or not…)
Smart.Responsible.Steadfast. These three are jailer’s cell.A clanking of keys;lockstep required. They...
The Divide between Silence and Speaking
Jan Richardson, one of my all time favorite writers and poets, has a poem called Having Taken the Fruit....
Write Toward Vulnerability
If something inside of you is real, we will probably find it interesting, and it will probably be universal....
Belief: Then & Now
There was a time in which any question about what I believed merited a simple, obvious, and expected answer....
Sit still. Be quiet. Feel.
Now that both of my girls live miles, states, and flights away from me, I find myself transitioning into...
6 Ways to Access Your Inner Wisdom
It’s taken me a lifetime to learn that I can trust myself and my own knowing instead of needing to rely on...
Choosing others’ comfort OR choosing self
I have a library of personal stories in which I let others' needs demands overrule my own. I'm not proud of...
Changing Everything
If you want to learn about a culture, listen to the stories. If you want to change a culture, change the...
Steps that count vs. counting steps
I have an Apple Watch that I rarely wear. It enables me to count my steps which, on good days, encourages...
Amelia Earhart. Agency. Taking action.
Amelia Mary Earhart was born July 24, 1897. In her short life, she was the first female aviator to fly solo...
Wisdom does as Wisdom says
Women hold all the wisdom they could ever need, that the planet could ever need, that the world so...
If your stories could talk…
A number of years ago I learned about intertextuality. It is how one text speaks to or shapes another; how...
Hearing Voices
I am neck-deep in manuscript-writing these days. This book, my book, this thing I've been nurturing and...
A DSM-V Code
Did you know that there is a DSM-V code for religious or spiritual problems? Yep: V-Code 62.89. Apparently...
A late-night text
I’ve been thinking about the wisdom that has shaped much of my life. I’m grateful for some of it, to be...
Non-existent, but no less real (February 29)
My father died a year ago today. No, that’s not quite right. He died on February 29, 2020. That day doesn’t...
Refrigerator-Magnet Wisdom
Last month I was in a bookstore in Lexington, KY with both of my daughters. We wandered in three different...
What’s left on the cutting room floor?
Each morning, lately, I have been reading from a book with 365 reflections. Some I resonate with; others,...
Choose life – and life – and life
There is an ancient story told of a woman who did not waver when the situation demanded swift (and...
The how-to’s of being “big”
In my last post I named the ways in which we have transmuted being small into our very DNA. This is not the...
Unraveling “small” on behalf of “big”
We must learn to be big in a way we’ve never been big - we must claim our right to take up space, to say our...
Go Deeper Still, Still…
(I first published this post on 12/31/14. It seems to me to be as relevant as ever.) Go deeper still... You...
The stories we tell ourselves
I've been thinking about the stories I tell - those of ancient, sacred women who have been absented from our...
My grown-up Christmas list:
One of my favorite Christmas carols by Amy Grant, offers these lyrics: “No more lives torn apart, That wars...
If we could have coffee together…
If you and I were sitting across from each other, sipping coffee, it would be inevitable that eventually I...
Today is my birthday!
I am 60 years old today. How is that even possible? The days leading up to this one have been filled with...
Remember who you are
I was in a queer mood, thinking myself very old; but now I am a woman again – as I always am when I write. I...
She was a voice
I ordered and read The Book of Longings last week. Written by Sue Monk Kidd, author of The Secret Life of...
Old Stories Make the New Ones Stronger
I listened to Brene Brown’s latest podcast - a conversation with Elizabeth Lesser, co-founder of the Omega...
Happy 24th Birthday, Emma Joy!
Happy 24th Birthday, Emma Joy.Though I’ve written these missives every year for a very long time, this one...
The power of women’s stories…and yours!
There’s an old, old story told that begins with a narcissistic, paranoid, and power-hungry man (which sounds...
Militancy + Hope + Desire
(A Sunday Sermon, of sorts - even though it's not a Sunday...) To refuse to participate in the shaping of...
Happy 22nd Birthday, Abby!
For many years I have written you a blog post on this day - commemorating the year that has passed and all I...
The shadows are not our home
We wake up each morning and watch the world around us burn. We see corruption, scandal, and the decimation...
A shocking event (with some context)
A Sunday sermon, of sorts, that I hadn’t planned to write... You know those movies that start with a...
A crossroad, a cliff’s edge, & decisions
Over a lifetime, we find ourselves at crossroads: a relationship, a marriage, a divorce, a career decision,...
Take your seat at the head of the table
All of us know times, even seasons, in which we struggle and strain to feel like we’re on solid ground...in...
What is 23?
I don’t like to even think about when I was 23, truth-be-told. Which is why I love to think of you. You,...
Happy 21st Birthday, Abby!
Yesterday, when out running errands, I idled at an intersection and watched a homeless man holding a sign...
Retrieving the Fragments
Although women’s words have been censored or eliminated from much of [our] heritage, in the midst of the...
The you you know best
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back? If all your power, compassion, love, and strength roared into any...
In tribute to Mary Oliver
At the end of last week, in reflecting on Mary Oliver’s life – small respite in the wake of her death – I...
Redefining Ordinary
The desire, temptation, and lure to live an extraordinary life is strong; to figure out our “one thing;” to...
Believing the Voice Within You
A voice dwells within you that can be trusted, that longs to be listened to, that consistently speaks truth....
As 2019 begins…
To hope is to gamble. It’s to bet on your futures, on your desires, on the possibility that an open heart...
Extravagant
There’s an ancient sacred story told of a woman who was beautifully, lavishly, even shockingly extravagant....
Hannah
Have you ever had a desire, a hunger, a longing so profound that any sacrifice would be worth its...
The Women at the Tomb
All we have are the stories, based on the unreasonable experience of people we never knew–and the choice of...
The Widow of Nain
There is an ancient story told of a widow whose only son died. With him went her last semblance of family,...
Sophia
Wisdom seeking is difficult because, as Martha Nussbaum has written, “Knowing can be violent, given the...
Stories that Still Speak
I’ve been awake for hours. Christmas tree lights on. Coffee made. Fire lit. Snuggled up on the couch. Laptop...
The birth of my blog…
When you write, you have to attempt something greater than you can possibly hope to accomplish. That is the...
Happy 22nd, Emma Joy!
It was shocking enough to acknowledge your sister’s 20th birthday – the fact that I no longer have...
Happy 20th Birthday, Abby!
How has the day arrived in which I no longer have teenagers? How is it that today you turn 20? I stand in...
A story about (in)visibility
Women: you are not unseen, unheard, or invisible! Ever! Do you ever feel as though you (and other women) are...
You’re Allowed to Run
It is excruciating to be the victim of someone’s scorn, passive-aggressive behavior, or blatant harm. All of...
3 Verses and a Refrain
Verse #1: There is good news. Nothing about you is broken. Nothing about you is wrong. Nothing about you...
4 Takeaways that Matter
I spend countless hours in the midst of the ancient, sacred stories of women - wanting and wondering how to...
What I need you to remember:
We are desperate to see ourselves in powerful and empowering ways. It’s no wonder: we have too-often and for...
Do the Next Thing
I don’t know about you, but when I read or hear the stories of amazing women (which is ALL the time), I have...
I’m right about this…
Chances are pretty high that if your desire is strong enough, acute enough, and impossible to dissuade,...
No Fairy Godmother
There’s a story I love to tell of a mostly unknown woman who singlehandedly won a huge battle for an entire...
There is nothing you need to figure out
I see the tears behind your eyes. I know about that lump in your throat. I hear the thoughts that swirl in...
Before Mother’s Day
With Mother’s Day less than a week away, it feels appropriate to name and honor our larger, longer...
Fanning Desire’s Flame
Desire is a tricky thing. To desire feels dangerous because we might not get what we want. To desire is...
When Things Don’t Go as Planned
I’ve been thinking a lot, even more than I normally do, about my daughters. About the trials and...
Before Valentine’s Day
I have an ambivalent relationship with Valentine’s Day. When young(er), I wished and prayed that I would...
Magical Thinking
Many of us wait around or secretly hope that something magical will happen. If I’m lucky enough, patient...
As 2018 begins…
Rebecca Solnit has written a book called, The Mother of All Questions: Further Reports from the Feminist...
These Stories Still Speak
I’ve been awake since 4:30 this morning. Uncharacteristically, instead of lying in bed and trying to tame my...
12 Years of Blogging
I find it almost impossible to believe that 12 years have passed since I meekly created a WordPress site and...
The deep and ever-present wisdom…
HEARING VOICES We all have at least one – often a legion of them. They speak when we least want them to....
Champagne on a Tuesday
My oldest daughter, Emma Joy, turns 21 today. Yes, Halloween. I can still picture her, just placed in my...
Women Joining & Healing
I feel like I am drowning in a sea of opinions, disasters, tragedies, trauma, harm, violence, and...
Happy 19th Birthday, Abby!
Your birthday. Nineteen. Somehow, it feels different this year. As I was thinking about what to write today,...
My Empty Nest
I can hardly believe the title of this post, the truth and heft of just three small words, the fact that...
My Inner Critic = The Patriarchy
I was recently organizing files on my computer (something I do when I intend to write, but instead find busy...
Charlottesville
I feel a heavy, collective shame. I feel stuck, trapped even, between not knowing what to say or what to do...
About Being Ubiquitous
This post could be entitled About Being God Without Realizing Such. I came across this word while reading a...
My Heart (Monitor)
I am hooked up to a heart monitor right now. It’s mobile – just four electrodes connected to various and...
God on a Woman’s Terms
For most of us, the word "sacred" conjures some thought of God. Perhaps you associate this with a positive...
The Scaffolding Around My Heart
Today is Abby’s last day of high school. I just finished packing her last school lunch – ever; my last...
Holes. Gaps. Cracks. Miracles. Light.
When you write you have to attempt something greater than you can possibly hope to accomplish. That is the...
Why do you write?
"Why do you write?" was a question recently asked of me. Here’s my answer: I write because it is the space...
Sacred Conversation with Your Heart – #6
Today concludes this 6-part series on (Sacred) Conversation with your Heart. I am hopeful, though, that it...
Sacred Conversation with Your Heart – #5
We’re moving toward the end of this 6-part series. I am hopeful it has done your heart good – especially...
Sacred Conversation with Your Heart – #4
PART FOUR – SPEAKING DEEPER TRUTHS Conversation, of course, is more than just listening. At its best, it...
Sacred Conversation with Your Heart – #3
PART THREE – HEARING DEEPER TRUTHS My heart does not steer me wrong. It may speak to me of things I’m not...
Sacred Conversation with Your Heart – #2
Today features Part 2 in a 6-part series that’s all about Sacred Conversation – not with me, but with your...
Sacred Conversation with Your Heart – #1
Today starts a 6-part series that’s all about Sacred Conversation – not with me, but with your heart. Each...
Easter 2017
I will not be attending Easter services today. I will not witness the rows of shiny, white patent-leather...
My Left-Hand Side
I did a quick mapping of my body the other day. Here’s what I discovered – from top tobottom: Many mornings,...
Somewhere between Kali and Jesus
I am Kali Ma.I stick my tongue out of my once silent lips.These eyes, no longer mild,Are furious daggers of...
Nevertheless, we persist!
On Tuesday, February 7, 2017, Senator Elizabeth Warren began to read a letter Coretta Scott King wrote in...
For now. Not forever.
I have felt more like a passive observer, than riled-up revolutionary since Donald Trump became president....
Goodbye, Twitter
I cancelled and closed my Twitter account last week. I’m almost hesitant to mention it; it was so...
January 1, 2017
What dreams lie dormant hidden in the womb of your soul, quietly waiting, incubating seeking opportunity to...
Why Stories Matter
We live in a world of stories. Childhood fairytales shape our dreams and hopes. Family legends, imparted...
A Reflection on 12
12 represents the completed cycle of experience. 12 is the symbol of cosmic order. There are 12 months in a...
Yes, yesterday. Now what?
Yesterday, November 9, 2016, I did all the things I always do: I made coffee. I journaled. I gave my...
November 9, 2016
I woke up this morning to news I did not expect and cannot believe: Donald Trump has won the presidential...
On the Phone vs. In a Pew
I had a conversation yesterday with a friend. She’s married. I’m not anymore. She lives in the South. I...
Musings on Being Single
On days like today I wrestle with what to do. It’s a Saturday morning. Little requires my time or attention...
About Fall, Writing, and Letting Go
Never say there is nothing beautiful in the world anymore. There is always something to make you wonder in...
20 Years Ago Today
I’m awake far too early – no reason for me to be up at this hour. But rather than sleep – or attempt such, I...
In line at Starbucks…
Although women’s words have been censored or eliminated from much of our heritage, in the midst of the pain...
So, I’ve written a book…
The subtitle is “A Braided Essay on Women and Silence and Shame.” And it’s published, printed, physical,...
Happy 18th Birthday, Abby
How is it possible that this day is here? Surprisingly, miraculously pregnant with you – wasn’t that just a...
My Three-Graces Season
I went in search of Renaissance art today, remembering that there was a particular period in which women’s...
Bloodline
What if you claimed your legacy, your inheritance, your very bloodline? As a daughter of Eve – the best Eve,...
On Writing – #4
This week, I’m offering a series of posts on writing – ones I’ve written before, new ones yet unseen,...
On Writing – #3
This week, I’m offering a series of posts on writing – ones I’ve written before, new ones yet unseen,...
On Writing – #2
This week, I’m offering a series of posts on writing – ones I’ve written before, new ones yet unseen,...
On Writing – #1
This week, I’m offering a series of posts on writing – ones I’ve written before, new ones yet unseen,...
Living an Ordinary Life
The desire, temptation, and lure to live an extraordinary life is strong; to figure out our “one thing;” to...
Handless Maidens and then some…
Two weeks ago I spent 6 days in the coveted presence of Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes. There were probably...
Where the Women Gather (and why)
How might your life have been different if there had been a place for you? A place for you to go ... a place...
Not seeing the forest for the trees (yet)
I don’t know about you, but when I read or hear the stories of amazing women (which is ALL the time), I have...
It’s all going to end badly
A few weeks ago, while talking to my therapist, I mentioned my ongoing and haunting hunch that the archetype...
The New Colossus
By Tanya Geisler For the last two years, I’ve been writing with a group of amazing women writers....
Orlando: 2 words that matter
Yesterday morning my daughter told me about the mass-shooting in Orlando. I had no words other than “I’m so...
A Woman’s Story
There is an ancient, sacred story told of a woman who was prophetess and judge. No other story like hers...
A story for Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day used to be the hardest day of the year for me – when lost in the throes of infertility. That is...
Is beauty worth $8 + tax?
As I sat down to journal this morning, I spotted the fresh tulips I bought just four days ago. They are...
Why didn’t you just say so?
I’ve been binge-watching The Newsroom for the past week. This morning I woke up far too early for a...
Desire for Desire’s Sake
Desire is a tricky thing. To desire feels dangerous because we might not get what we want (and...
The Scent of a Woman
I’m not sure how he knew to gift me with perfume, this particular perfume – this man I’d been dating only 6...
What if you didn’t hold back?
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back? If all your power, compassion, love, and strength roared into any...
On Miracles
I made a video a few days back in which I talked of Tabitha. Little known. Rarely told. Hugely significant....
Remember who you are (x3)
We are desperate to see ourselves in powerful and empowering ways. It’s no wonder: we have too-often and for...
Tears
Tears are a river that takes you somewhere...Tears lift your boat off the rocks, off dry ground, carrying it...
Boom-Boom, Boom-Boom
I often listen to podcasts in the morning. Out of the shower, getting ready for my day. Today’s didn’t...
Letting Go and Holding On
Living through years of infertility taught me an invaluable lesson. And truth-be-told, I continue to learn...
Tidings of Great Joy
It’s an early evening in December, 1966. I am six years old, standing on a stage, proudly fulfilling the...
A woman’s heart = experiencing God
From the beginning of time we have been asking questions about the Divine. The form, complexity, and context...
When Darkness Threatens
But a grave separateness has invaded the world... ~ Naomi Shihab Nye It is said that in the beginning,...
Today: 10 years of Blogging!
10 years ago today, November 15, 2005, I wrote and published my very first blog post. No one knew but me....
Nearly 20 years ago . . .
It was nearly 20 years ago that I hastily opened the drugstore-purchased home-pregnancy test, that I tried...
A Woman’s Fight
There’s an old, old story told of the patriarch, Jacob, who wrestled through the night with an angel-man,...
Happy 17th Birthday, Abby!
Today marks the 9th year in which I have written a blog post on your birthday – celebrating you, honoring...
What a Healed Woman Sounds Like
Once upon a time there was a woman who had suffered for twelve years with constant bleeding. She had been...
Turning This Impossible Page
I bought a new journal a few weeks back. Planning ahead. Knowing my current one was nearly full. Wanting to...
Using a Pseudonym
I’ve been wondering lately what I would write if I had a pseudonym, if I wrote with some super-secret name....
Make your mark!
Stop listening to the insipid internal and external voices that tell you you’re inconsequential, that you...
Sometimes the best choice is to RUN!
It is excruciating to be the victim of someone’s scorn, passive-aggressive behavior, or blatant harm. I’ve...
Messy is Preferable
Sunday morning was a known and predictable entity for me while growing up; a thing in and of itself. No...
Permission Granted: the God YOU choose
It used to be, when lost in places of confusion, hurt, or pain, I would turn to the God of whom I’d been...
Letting Go is NOT Falling Apart
A wise woman tells me she gets this strong sense that I am unable to really let go; like I’m afraid of...
Chasing Rainbows
The night I saw THE rainbow was the culmination of another out-of-town weekend. I was in my 20’s (a very...
The Wild Voice Within
There is a voice within that says more and edits less. It digs deep and dives down. It is impossible to...
Coexistence: Goodness AND Struggle
Emma Joy graduates from high school today. For the past few weeks, nearly everything she’s done or said has...
A freewrite on faith
There have been times in which my own writing has taken me to places of surprise, insight, and even tears....
Channeling Etta James
It’s just before 7:00 on Friday night. I sit in the high school auditorium, about the fifth row from the...
Telling Myself (no more) Lies
I have recently uncovered an interesting belief I hold within. It’s not pleasant. And frankly, I’m not all...
The Day I Spoke Up in Class
For most of my life I’ve been a rule-follower. I am really good at figuring out what’s expected and then...
Living in the in-between
Once upon a time, long before women had volition or will as to who they married, a search commenced for the...
I am not shocked by you.
There’s a story I love to tell of a mostly unknown woman who singlehandedly won a huge battle for a whole...
Easter and Eve
What if Easter was about Eve? What would it be like if the entire “Christian” world celebrated the day that...
About My HUGE Celebration!
About four weeks ago, I posted a picture on Facebook of a glass of champagne, hinting that I had something...
The Stunning Story that is Yours
I see the tears behind your eyes. I know about the lump in your throat. I hear the thoughts that swirl in...
In the midst . . .
Here is what I know about you: Right now, in the midst, you embody the Feminine. Right now, in the midst,...
Tipping the Scales (finally!)
The tipping point is that magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips,...
The Full Moon and other thoughts
Whoever you are: some evening take a step out of your house, which you know so well. Enormous space is...
Imagination and then some…
Imagination is a wonderful, healing, redeeming, strengthening, transformative thing. I spend a lot of my...
About rain and tears and grief
My desk sits in front of two windows that look out on stark trees. For now, there are no leaves in sight....
Chances are…
Chances are pretty high that if your desire is strong enough, acute enough, and impossible to dissuade,...
A poem. Some story. Lots of truth.
“Please understand me!”she cried.An impossible premisean impossible promiseimpossible, period. She...
Go Deeper Still
You already know this: there is profound beauty and wisdom that lies in wait – deep within you. When you...
Telling Stories
"Stories have to be told or they die, and when they die, we can’t remember who we are or why we’re here.”...
Get Out of that Kitchen!
There is an ancient sacred story told of two sisters – Mary and Martha. It goes as follows: As Jesus and the...
The Unanswerable Question of “Why”
Every day we are confronted with realities that confound us, enrage us, and break our hearts. We sift...
Imagining God’s Voice as “She”
I know. I know. God is neither a man nor a white-bearded patriarch in the sky. And yes, I know that God is...
Extravagant Love. Extravagant You.
There’s an ancient sacred story told of a woman who was beautifully, lavishly, even shockingly extravagant....
The Sacred in a High School Gym
Yesterday morning I sat in a high school gym surrounded by teenagers. The Veteran’s Day Assembly. I wasn’t...
This is why these stories matter!
My on-again-off-again spiritual practice is to read one of the ancient, sacred stories I sometimes so love...
Happy 18th Birthday, Emma Joy!
I do not know whether to cry uncontrollably or celebrate wildly, Emma. Perhaps both. Both...and then some....
Everything is Sacred
“In this moment, everything is sacred.” ~ Ariel Books Oh, how we long to accede to this intellectually, but...
How to usher in the gods.
While at the movie theater last night, I sat enthralled through the trailer for Exodus: Gods and Kings. Out...
The perfect way to stop a woman.
"I’ve seen women insist on cleaning everything in the house before they could sit down to write.... and you...
Open the door. No matter what.
Same thoughts. Same frustrations. Same choices. Different day. To open the door, or not... Your hand...
Sweet Sixteen
As you well know, Abby, my words seem to know no end. In the midst, I hope you hear those that express my...
3 Verses on Truth and a Refrain
Verse #1: There is good news. Nothing about you is broken. Nothing about you is wrong. Nothing about you...
Head acknowledged. Heart aflame.
Something within you knows that you bring a seeing, a knowing, a perspective to this world that, once...
Maybe it’s (not) only me
Maybe this sounds familiar: You are in conversation with someone. As they are talking you hear another...
When Wisdom Eludes
I remember one afternoon, years ago, sitting in my living room with a woman I deeply respected. I talked to...
Just this . . .
Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Do not be afraid. ~ Frederich Buechner
Speak your mind. Tell your truth.
She felt as though her life was some kind of hellish test; as though the universe was conspiring against...
On moving and writing and coming home.
This week we moved from our house of the past 13 years to a condo. Well, to say “this past week” wouldn’t...
How to Deepen Your Spirituality
One of the most powerful ways in which we infuse and strengthen our own spirituality is to expand it beyond...
(Not) throwing the baby out . . .
When you grow up steeped in religion, attending church every Sunday, knowing Bible stories better than...
Women’s Wisdom: Inextinguishable
I’ll admit that I have been known to doubt the efficacy and relevance of my own words and work. The endless...
The other woman
Every once in a while, out of the corner of my eye, I glimpse the other woman. She looks so much like me,...
Holding my Breath.
I’ve been holding my breath lately. It’s a trying season as a mom. I feel heartache over a relationship’s...
I Am A Medial Woman
The Medial Woman...is a representation of the strong-sighted and deep-hearted self who lives simultaneously...
Go Into the Darkness.
Gazing into the mirror, I saw myself as I was – a black silhouette in the room, a woman whose darkness had...
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back?
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back? If all your power, compassion, love, and strength roared into any...
A letter to myself
Dear Me: Exhaustion. I see it. It’s down deep, far beneath the surface. A weariness that comes from holding...
Letting Silence Speak
I can feel the silence within me. It is deep, strong, dark, passionate, swirling, boiling, pulsing. A...
An Easter Reflection
I will not be attending Easter services today. I will not witness the rows of shiny, white patent-leather...
Where Wisdom Dwells
Where is wisdom to be found when you need and want it the most? Here’s the quick answer: within you. ...
For such a time as this.
Sometimes if not oftentimes, the circumstances in which you find yourself are the last ones you want. You...
The 3 Secrets of the Gifted Soul
“Since you were born gifted, you will never lead an ordinary life.” “Eccentricity is the first sign of...
Standing Ground & Donning Crown
Yes, standing your ground and donning your crown. Or...maybe choosing to remove it altogether! Once upon a...
Transforming Your Story (Part 3)
Transforming Your Story – The “How” Part 3 of a series. 12 posts scattered throughout 2014 on Transforming...
The only piece of wisdom you will ever need
I (re)watched The Matrix a few nights back. I hadn’t seen it for years and it was even better than I...
What I know for sure (about women)
What I know for sure about women; about us: When I read the ancient, sacred stories of women I am...
Expressing profound grief & fierce loss
There is an ancient story told of a widow whose only son died. With him went her last semblance of family,...
Speak the language women speak.
“We must learn to speak the language women speak when there is no one there to correct us.” ~ Helene Cixous...
Because I Am Older
I could talk about what I have learned these past 53 years, about how my body doesn’t move or respond quite...
Transforming Your Story (Part 2)
Did you miss Part 1? Click here. Today, Part 2: Why would you want to Transform Your Story? When I say...
You are NOT the Invisible Woman!
Do you ever feel as though you are unseen, unheard, invisible? As though your story doesn’t have all that...
Sophia and Quantum Physics
I had to figure out how to find Sophia. Or make the space for her to find me. One day I came to realize that...
Believing in Another World
The debate is long, old, and exhausting. Is there life beyond ours, in other places, on other planes or...
Don’t Look Back
Danielle LaPorte recently said, "Do not give your past the power to define your future." Nowhere is this...
Transforming Your Story (Part 1)
A transformed story is what I want for you: that you would see your life as story, step into it with the...
TRUTH is a warrior
I’ve spent the last few days at a beautiful, private, and extremely quiet place. I’ve spent a lot of time...