There’s a story I love to tell of a mostly unknown woman who singlehandedly won a huge battle for a whole tribe of people by doing the most unlikely thing. In the thick of the fighting, she offered the enemy commander (who was sneaking away) a safe place to hide, made him comfortable, and then, as he slept, drove a tent peg through his head.
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It’s a violent story, to be sure. Which would explain why it’s rarely told. But just imagine if it had been, if she was known.
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Imagine if you had grown up hearing her story instead of Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty. If you had been been lulled to sleep by the tale of a shockingly brave woman who overcame every fear and did what had to be done – no matter what others thought, expected, or even allowed. If you’d had a model, a template, a subconscious plot line within that invited courage, boldness, and strength.
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Imagine if no part of you ever, whether admitted or not, waited for a Prince Charming or a Fairy Godmother or a perfect kiss. If it never crossed your mind to choose being good over being right. If you had no idea what seen-not-heard even meant. If you never compromised yourself on behalf of another. If no part of you held back, played it safe, or waited to be invited into the, arena onto the stage, or out of the shadows.
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Hard to imagine, isn’t it?
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Well, no imagination is required to hear that same woman’s voice on your behalf; to hear what’s true. Listen.
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This is no time for fear. And though it sometimes courses through your every cell, it cannot be given rule or reign. You are braver, stronger, better. You will do what must be done. No matter what. I’m sure of it – and you.
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It may not be pretty – this brave act of yours. And it won’t be simple. Messy. Difficult. Exhausting. Even bloody. Still, necessary and right. I’m sure of it – and you.
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Perhaps no one sees it coming; sees you as the one who will win the battle and the war. Perhaps hardly anyone expects that your courage, your actions, your clandestine measures will be sung about for centuries to come. And perhaps only a few know that within you dwells more boldness and brashness than can begin to be imagined. I’m sure of it – and you.
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I will not be shocked by you. I know you – the real, brave, confident, courageous, defiant, win-the-battle you.
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And this is no fairytale. No imagination is required. I am Jael and you, the true you, are my daughter, my lineage, my kin.
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Just in case you still can’t imagine it (even though I told you that no imagination was required), allow me this:
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You are surrounded and supported, cheered and celebrated, held and honored by more than just Jael (though she’s something, isn’t she?). There are countless ancient, sacred women whose stories when told, and voices when heard, will remind you of who you truly are: their daughter, their lineage, their kin.
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Maybe you’d like to hear a few more?
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As for me, I can hardly wait to hear the stories about you!
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May it be so.
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    Basket of ApplesWhat if Easter was about Eve? What would it be like if the entire “Christian” world celebrated the day that Eve ate the fruit and exited the Garden? What if we painted eggs to symbolize the embryo of all women yet-to-come, her “birthing” of a new world, her breaking free? What if we covered the ham with apple slices instead of pineapple? What if we wore snakeskin shoes instead of patent leather? What if we wore hats adorned with fig leaves?
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    Does all this seem scandalous, sacrilegious, shocking? I’ll admit it does (a bit) to me, too. But here’s the thing:
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    You get to decide what you imbue with meaning and significance. You get to decide the symbols that hold sway. You get to decide the stories that speak. You get to define the Sacred – for you!
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    To have it prescribed, decreed, or demanded never works out all that well.
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    Believe me: this is not to decry the beauty and mystery inherent in the resurrection story. Not at all. Nor am I arguing that centuries of religious tradition should be abandoned. What I am saying is that were we to hear and embrace other stories, especially those of women, we might just have a different affinity for the Sacred – both within and without. More, I am saying that this is what I most want for you: an experience and understanding of the Sacred that is unbound and imaginative and extraordinary.
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    • Perhaps that comes through a remembering of the empty tomb, Jesus’ resurrection, and the glorious singing of Handel’s Messiah.

    • Perhaps that comes through painted eggs and chocolate bunnies and family ’round the table.

    • Perhaps that comes through a morning of incense and yoga or a cup of coffee and the New York Times.

    • Perhaps that comes through a walk in the sun and the spotting of Spring’s return.

    • Perhaps that comes through holding close the story of a woman who was created in the image of the gods and infinitely loved by the same; who risked everything for the life she imagined was just on the other side of boundary and border and rules; who made dangerous and bold choices; who trusted the know-that-I-know-that-I-know voice within; who survived and persevered and labored and birthed and lived outside Eden; from whom we all descend – her daughter, her lineage, her kin.

    • Perhaps that comes by believing that it is possible to be freed from all that binds (like the darkness of a tomb) through stories and symbols and all-things Sacred; that maybe impossible-to-explain faith somehow endures (like a resurrection).

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    Ultimately, that is what Easter and the Sacred and Life are about: being loosened from the grip of hopelessness and despair and ushered into the profound awareness that life and joy and miracle not only await, but actually exist.
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    I’ve written about Easter for a number of years now. I am aware that the day can be filled with high levels of ambivalence for many. I get it. And I want you to know you’re not alone.

    2014: I will not be attending Easter services today…
    2013: Choose to believe – even if only today.
    2012: Why I Believe in Easter this Year (a tribute to Beth)
    2011: The resurrection is a woman’s story.
    2010: Easter 2010

     

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      *clink*About four weeks ago, I posted a picture on Facebook of a glass of champagne, hinting that I had something to celebrate. This past week I did so again – declaring that the celebration was now officially “on.” In between the two pictures and the posts, many have guessed, others have blatantly asked, but most have just requested that I end the suspense already. 

      It’s not an engagement. 
      It’s not a book deal.
      It’s not a lottery win.

      But from where I sit, it feels like all three of these rolled into one. 

      Some history. On March 31, 2009, I got laid off from my job. I won’t go into the years of angst that created, the gallons of tears I shed, the anxiety and worry that plagued as to how I would continue to pay my bills, take care of my girls, and manage my life. For six years now I have pieced income together. Consulting gigs. Contract work. All part time and three or four things at a time. I’ve purchased for my own medical/dental benefits, forgotten what paid vacation means, and have slotted my writing, my daughters, my life into a schedule that has been driven by keeping plates spinning and responsibilities sustained. One of those “pieces” has been my role as a trainer/facilitator with the Department of Labor. For 5+ years I’ve spent 3 days a week with Army, Air Force, Navy, Coast Guard and Marine Corps separatees/retirees – helping them with their transition from military to civilian life. I’ve stood at a podium, clicked through Powerpoint slides, provided witty anecdotes, written on more whiteboards than I care to count, talked about resumes/networking/interview skills/salary negotiation, and gotten choked-up when, each week, I’ve thanked them for their service and genuinely hoped such good things for their futures. I’ve been grateful. It’s been rewarding. It’s been constant. It’s paid the bills. And only a few plates have crashed to the ground.  

      In the midst of all this, I have been working on my business, this business, my heart. All along I have been waiting, hoping, praying for the scales to tip, for earnings to be significant enough that I can let go of outside work and devote my time and energy to that which I prefer. And all along I’ve been dreaming about finding any way in which I can be ‘location-independent’ – able to work anywhere there’s internet connectivity, my laptop, and good coffee – no suits, commutes, or witty anecdotes required.  

      Cutting to the chase. As of April 1, 2015 (exactly six years later – how amazing is that?!?) I will be working exclusively from home. Even better (if that’s possible), I’m being provided medical/dental benefits, paid vacation and holidays, accumulated retirement and sick time (whaaaaaat?) – all the things I’d long-since abandoned and complete flexibility as to how I structure my time and total freedom to integrate my business, this business, my heart into every day – not just some; no longer squeezed into the slightest open moments, my lunch hours, late at night, and during the dark morning hours far before any civilized human is awake, let alone out of bed and at their computer. 

      In the interest of transparency, it feels important to acknowledge not only how hard it is to grow an online business, but to name honestly that mine does not support me (yet). Oh, the progress I’ve made. Oh, the gift it’s been to watch its slow-but-sure movement and growth. Oh, the thrill to pay taxes that hurt just a bit this year – realizing I earned more than I’d saved for. It feels important to acknowledge just how hard it is to press on and persevere as an entrepreneur when we see people around us who appear to have somehow landed on the perfect formula, the ideal business model, the phenomenal and endless client base. I don’t know if they have, or not. What I do know is that I have built a business, this business, my heart while working like a crazy person, making huge compromises in many aspects of my life, and somehow surviving. What I do know is that it has been – and continues to be – a TON of work (unpaid, paid, piece-meal, part-time, and combinations thereof). 

      I am still in shock, quite frankly, not yet able to grasp what it means that five whole days stretch before me this week – and many, many more to come – without the necessity of a calendaring system sophisticated enough for the Pentagon, with nothing other than yoga pants as dress code, with no lunch to pack, with no traffic to endure. Really, I can’t quite get my head wrapped around it. But my heart? It is certain. It is sure. It is full-to-overflowing. 

      It will be a glorious day indeed when I am writing the post about leaving behind even this job because my business, this business, my heart now makes enough to support me (or a very lucrative engagement happens or the book deal comes or I win the lotto). That day I will do more than post a picture of a glass of champagne on Facebook. You’ll see me bathing in it!  

      This morning I read my Sunday pleasure, Brain-Pickings Weekly, and nearly came undone over this quote: 

      Start with a big fat lump in your throat. Start with a profound sense of wrong, a deep homesickness, a crazy lovesickness, and run with it. If you imagine less, less will be what you undoubtedly deserve. Do what you love. And don’t stop until you get what you love. Work as hard as you can. Imagine immensities. Don’t compromise and don’t waste time. In order to strive for a remarkable life, you have to decide that you want one. Start now. Not twenty years from now. Not thirty years from now. Not two weeks from now. Now.

      Sometimes we don’t get to choose when we start. Events overcome. Layoffs happen. Change is forced. 

      Always we get to do what we love – even if it’s in the dark, behind the scenes, after hours, and barely noticed. We can imagine. We can work hard. 

      And sometimes everything changes. Miracles happen. Perseverance pays off. Grace pervades. Champagne pours. *clink*

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        I see the tears behind your eyes. I know about the lump in your throat. I hear the thoughts that swirl in your mind. Every single one of them. Longing for things to change, wishing for different circumstances, wanting to live a more significant story.

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        In-between the reality in which you dwell and the one you desire, I know about the ache that will not be soothed, despite your best attempts – whether through good soul work or dulling dissociation.

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        I watch as you persist in the belief that there is something missing; something you’ve yet to attain or manage or get past/through before you can truly step into your place in this world, before you can step into the stunning story that is yours.

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        All of this breaks my heart on your behalf.

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        Because I know better. Because I can see the end from the beginning. Because I have perspective you do not. Because I can see exactly who you are, all that you offer and invite. Right now, not someday. This very moment in time.

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        Who am I, you ask? I have been in existence since before the beginning of time. I was there when the earth was formed. I breathed your matrilineage into being, whispering the Wisdom that was hers, that has forever been hers. My heart beats within every story of every woman who has ever lived. And I endure no matter the oppression, the silencing, the abuse, the fear. Nothing and no one can keep me down. Not even you.

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        I am the you that rises above all that restricts, restrains, limits, or binds. I am the crystal clear voice that may, as yet, not speak out loud, but that is no less real, wise, and right. I am your potential. I am your future. And more than all else, I am your present – right here, right now, exactly this day, this life, this you. Always. Endlessly. Infinitely.

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        Lean into the truth of this. Let the tears flow in relief. Let the lump in your throat dissolve as your voice sings out. Let the thoughts that swirl rest. You are not alone. You are not alone. You are not alone. And you need not wait for things to change. Your right-now story is enough, perfect, amazing. You are.

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        You can trust me: there is nothing you need figure out or rise above. All that you require, desire, and deserve is already yours. Reach within. Rise up. Then step into the limelight, enter the fray, and embrace the truth of who you are: my daughter, my lineage, my kin.

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        I am completely-and-without-reservation convinced of every word I’ve written above. They could be are spoken by every one of the ancient, sacred women whose stories I love; by the Sacred Feminine herself. Easier said than done to accept, but no less yours, mine, ours to claim. Legacy by which to be transformed; the stunning story through which we will transform the world.

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        May it be so.

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          Here is what I know about you: Right now, in the midst, you embody the Feminine. Right now, in the midst, you inhale and exhale Sophia (wisdom as She). Right now, in the midst, you birth and behold the Sacred. Not someday. Not when your story is satisfying and happy. Right now. This story. This day. This you!

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          The proclivity to want a story – a life – that is satisfying and happy is high. Western culture all but demands it while simultaneously reminding us that we don’t have it…yet. But if we will only get this, buy this, do this, achieve this, then our desires will be fulfilled. Then, but not now.

          What is the balance between reality and hope, between acceptance and desire, between the present and the longed-for future?

          I don’t have answers. What I do have, however, is stories. Lots of them. And they are what save me.

          Admittedly, it’s a paradox: most of the stories I retell, reimagine, and redeem are painful. Women who are often the victims of violence and power, excruciating cultural norms, and silencing and invisibility that haunts. But in the midst, they are beautiful, strong, and deserving of honor. And that, from my perspective and experience, is the key:

          It is in the midst that our story, our very selves, demonstrate beauty, strength, and honor beyond compare. Not someday. Not then. Not ‘if only.’ Right now.

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          What if we didn’t work so hard to elude the parts of our story we’re not all that crazy about? What if we didn’t work ourselves into a frenzy to somehow get out of our current circumstances and into the ones we want? What if we learned to stay, to abide, to dwell in the midst – exactly where we are?

          Beauty, strength, and honor would be (and is) ours in the midst.

          An example:

          Bathsheba. In going about her life, just living and being, she gets thrust into a story in which her body was dishonored, her shame prolific, her grief visceral, and her will rarely considered. It’s not an easy story. (Read it here, if you’d like.) And she is beautiful. And she is strong. And she brings forth life. And she promulgates wisdom beyond compare. In the midst.

          Though I could speak endlessly of the injustice and ache within her story, this is what speaks to me: Bathsheba’s was and is a story of beauty in the midst of ugliness, strength in the midst of struggle, life in the midst of death, wisdom in the midst of foolishness, and honor in the midst of exactly its opposite.

          My story is no different. Nor is yours. For we are her daughters, her lineage, her kin.

          This is the Feminine enfleshed and embodied. This is Sophia in breath and voice. This is the Sacred here and now. Not someday. Not happily ever after. Right now. Within. Always. Unswerving. In the midst.

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          Because I can witness this in the story of Bathsheba (and Eve and Hagar and Rahab and Mary Magdalene and the Woman at the Well and a gloriously-infinite list of so many others), I can allow for the same in my own story. In the midst.

          What if you did the same?

          Here is what I know about you: Right now, in the midst, you embody the Feminine. Right now, in the midst, you inhale and exhale Sophia (wisdom as She). Right now, in the midst, you birth and behold the Sacred. Not someday. Not when your story is satisfying and happy. Right now. This story. This day. This you!

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          When I reflect on the work I most love, one-on-one SacredConversations with clients, I recognize that this is what we are talking about: how to hold the aspects of a story – past and present – that are excruciatingly hard, at times, and see the magnificent beauty that was, is, and will always be in the midst and within. The Sacred – showing up. Not some day. Right now. 

          Truly, if you find yourself in the midst of hard stories (and who doesn’t), it would be gift and privilege to walk alongside you in the midst and invite you to not only occasional glimpses, but the breathtaking expanse of the Sacred, the Feminine, the Divine, the strength, and the beauty that is present (and deserving of honor) within you.

          I am inviting new clients beginning in April. I hope one of them is you.

          No matter what, in the midst, I hope you’ll hear the voice of your matrilineage, the Sacred Feminine Herself, speaking through, of all things, perfectly timed text-messages. From my heart to your phone. No obligation. Free for the first week. SacredTexts.

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