Comments on: Love and Detachment

By: The Conqueror. No, not Conan.

The Conqueror. No, not Conan. — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 04:04:46 +0000

[...] Ronna got me thinking about Love today. Not the sappy kind of love that switches your brain off. Not even the frightening kind of love that makes you crazy with jealousy. She got me thinking about the kind of love where you’re sure you’ve got it but you’re not sure you’re willing to succumb to the Dark Side of Dependency. [...]

By: Gwen

Gwen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 01:45:46 +0000

Thanks, Ronna.

By: Ronna Detrick

Ronna Detrick — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:48:01 +0000

Such a messy place, Gwen. I won’t presume to know the answer to either of your questions: that of whether or not the love for the friend detaches you from other possibilities; or why its so difficult to believe in and nurture love. What I will do is invite you to dance – in the mess, in the beauty, to whatever music you hear most deeply in your soul. I’m absolutely positive that when you listen, way down, you’ll hear the right beat and start to move. Love is always there – first and foremost for self, and others, as well.

By: Gwen

Gwen — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:25:21 +0000

Just discovered this post, nearly a month later. How timely. I recently turned down a guy who was sweet, smart, attentive and funny — but who moved too quickly across the dance floor. One reason I detached and ran? I’m still (possibly) in love with a friend. But given his disinterest — his consummate detachment — maybe I use my attraction to him as an excuse to detach myself from other possibilities. Love is so basic and central to life. So why is it so difficult to believe in and nurture?

By: Ronna Detrick

Ronna Detrick — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 16:48:31 +0000

Thank you!