Comments on: Chosen http://www.ronnadetrick.com/chosen/ Writer & Speaker Sun, 05 Feb 2012 07:37:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Ready for Love http://www.ronnadetrick.com/chosen/comment-page-1/#comment-1022 Ready for Love Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:19:45 +0000 http://www.ronnadetrick.com/?p=1416#comment-1022 [...] I want is unreasonable to expect, that I need to settle, that I’m not all that, worth being chosen, cherished, adored, respected, and seen as the most amazing female to walk the face of the planet. [...] [...] I want is unreasonable to expect, that I need to settle, that I’m not all that, worth being chosen, cherished, adored, respected, and seen as the most amazing female to walk the face of the planet. [...]

]]> By: Ronna Detrick http://www.ronnadetrick.com/chosen/comment-page-1/#comment-235 Ronna Detrick Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:42:22 +0000 http://www.ronnadetrick.com/?p=1416#comment-235 Thanks, Deb. Yes: those who choose me become more and more fabulous. And yes, when I let that happen, I get to be more and more fabulous, as well. It's a win-win; just easier said than done. 'Appreciate your words - and the heart within them. Thanks, Deb. Yes: those who choose me become more and more fabulous. And yes, when I let that happen, I get to be more and more fabulous, as well. It’s a win-win; just easier said than done. ‘Appreciate your words – and the heart within them.

]]> By: Deb Owen http://www.ronnadetrick.com/chosen/comment-page-1/#comment-234 Deb Owen Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:56:21 +0000 http://www.ronnadetrick.com/?p=1416#comment-234 Ronna is right. Family of origin stuff can crop up at any time. There are times, still, when I make a choice that is right for me but would not be right for them and I still - to this day - can hear their voices in my head. I know exactly what they'd say. It used to create angst. Now I just go, "Yep. That's what they'd say" and move right on. As Ronna says though, it is the conflict that will lead you to truly examine what's right for you -- and to know. And Ronna, every time we choose ourselves, our selves get stronger and happier and more whole. And from that place, the people who do choose us turn out to be more and more fabulous all the time. (As opposed to those who would ask us to be different from who we are so that they can choose us.) It's difficult sometimes though. Because we want so badly to be seen, to be heard, to be understood, to be loved. Hold out for the real thing. You're worth it. All the best! deb .-= Deb Owen´s last blog ..<a href="http://debowen.typepad.com/8hours/2009/10/opportunity.html" rel="nofollow">to find opportunity, you have to know where to look</a> =-. Ronna is right. Family of origin stuff can crop up at any time. There are times, still, when I make a choice that is right for me but would not be right for them and I still – to this day – can hear their voices in my head. I know exactly what they’d say.

It used to create angst.
Now I just go, “Yep. That’s what they’d say” and move right on. As Ronna says though, it is the conflict that will lead you to truly examine what’s right for you — and to know.

And Ronna, every time we choose ourselves, our selves get stronger and happier and more whole. And from that place, the people who do choose us turn out to be more and more fabulous all the time. (As opposed to those who would ask us to be different from who we are so that they can choose us.)

It’s difficult sometimes though. Because we want so badly to be seen, to be heard, to be understood, to be loved.

Hold out for the real thing. You’re worth it.
All the best!
deb
.-= Deb Owen´s last blog ..to find opportunity, you have to know where to look =-.

]]> By: Ronna Detrick http://www.ronnadetrick.com/chosen/comment-page-1/#comment-233 Ronna Detrick Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:26:08 +0000 http://www.ronnadetrick.com/?p=1416#comment-233 Thanks for your comments. Family of origin continue to crop up for us - regardless of age. Deeply ingrained patterns, systems of belief, and behaviors that are hard to shake. But you're on the right track by being able to name them - and separate from them for perspective and your own growth. Indeed, any tension is tough, but sometimes is the very thing that helps clarify our own value, our ability to stand on our own two feet, hold our ground, and listen to that inner voice. Thanks for your comments. Family of origin continue to crop up for us – regardless of age. Deeply ingrained patterns, systems of belief, and behaviors that are hard to shake. But you’re on the right track by being able to name them – and separate from them for perspective and your own growth. Indeed, any tension is tough, but sometimes is the very thing that helps clarify our own value, our ability to stand on our own two feet, hold our ground, and listen to that inner voice.

]]> By: Paddy http://www.ronnadetrick.com/chosen/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Paddy Sun, 18 Oct 2009 12:51:24 +0000 http://www.ronnadetrick.com/?p=1416#comment-232 there must have been something in the air yesterday, i too was doing a lot of thought crunching about my values and beliefs, versus those of my dad's. A man who has been a great source of inspiration and wisdom and advice through my life, but i'm now getting to a place in my life, my journey where my beliefs and values are growing away from some of his. I've been struggling with accepting this for a while now. me and him butted heads a bit last night, i got quite angry and sad, but didn't direct this at him, blogged about it, and then today after some sleep i've had a chance to let my thoughts brew; its ok for me and dad to have different beliefs and values. I'm confident in what i feel and believe in, but still, like you and others i still want to get some validation from my dad. who wouldn't? Personally i'm kinda curious to see how these feelings develop as I age, and perhaps as dad ages too (I'm 23, he's 56) Regarding listening to our own voice(s) i think when we're young listening to our own voice over those of our elders is percieved as being foolish and too headstrong, perhaps this is where all this doubt comes from? there must have been something in the air yesterday, i too was doing a lot of thought crunching about my values and beliefs, versus those of my dad’s. A man who has been a great source of inspiration and wisdom and advice through my life, but i’m now getting to a place in my life, my journey where my beliefs and values are growing away from some of his.

I’ve been struggling with accepting this for a while now. me and him butted heads a bit last night, i got quite angry and sad, but didn’t direct this at him, blogged about it, and then today after some sleep i’ve had a chance to let my thoughts brew; its ok for me and dad to have different beliefs and values. I’m confident in what i feel and believe in, but still, like you and others i still want to get some validation from my dad. who wouldn’t?

Personally i’m kinda curious to see how these feelings develop as I age, and perhaps as dad ages too (I’m 23, he’s 56)

Regarding listening to our own voice(s) i think when we’re young listening to our own voice over those of our elders is percieved as being foolish and too headstrong, perhaps this is where all this doubt comes from?

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