Came across quote today at one of my favorite new blog sites and Twitter followings: White Hot Truth:
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible – is freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides. (From The Gift of the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh)
Beautiful. Impossible. Amazing. Sounds like love…
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hey hey – thanks for the link love. I've always adored this quote: "What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would split open." (Muriel Rukeyser) – so nice to read it again, thank you.
Love
Danielle
Wow, I needed to read this today…I'm living between the two with a girl I have mentored who is living in the lies of the world…that to be married is the goal, that to be loved by a man is the highest good. And she has settled. I have not known how to continue to love her…I am failing to trust the Lord in this I know, but she has changed and become shallow and has forgotten the ONE who matters more and has traded it for facebook pictures and plastic smiles.
So, I need to live in the ebb and love her well…I guess it will be necessary for me to be influenced by Jesus again…and that's a good thing.
Thanks…